About Counselling. counselling two women

How does counselling work?

If you are thinking of coming for counselling and are unsure about what to expect, I hope the following will help to reassure you.

Your initial consultation is at a reduced fee as it is not only an opportunity to speak about what has brought you to counselling but also a time for you to ask questions about anything that may be concerning you.

We will discuss and agree a working contract so that we are clear about each other's expectations, but this can be reviewed at any time.

If you decide to continue with counselling, we will agree time schedules, usually weekly. Ongoing counselling sessions will last for 60 minutes each for a single consultation and 75 minutes for couple counselling. There is no limit to the number of sessions you can have - you decide when you feel you no longer need counselling.

Person Centred Counselling

I am essentially a Person Centred counsellor and as such, I do not give you advice or a set of procedures to follow in order for you to feel better. I consider that everyone has within themselves the ability to decide the best path to take in order to move forward with their lives. However, I have been trained in other approaches and in certain circumstances, have found it beneficial for my client to 'dip into' a different approach. I will, however, always be committed to working with you, at your own pace, in order for you to reach that awareness and will be open and honest with you at all times. In this environment of mutual trust and openness, hopefully you will feel able to start looking at those internalised blockages and move forward with your life.

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There will be peaks and troughs along the way, but I will always be there with you through that journey until you feel empowered enough to 'go it alone'

I remember our time together as a healthy experience, even when perhaps my own defences would attempt to deflect the conversations. With your patience, doors to my own internal world were opened that I did not know existed. When I write this, it sounds rather melodramatic to me, however it was the first time I had sensed my own internal abilities and control and a trust in myself that had long been hidden from me. That day when the penny dropped, everything seemed so much more colourful and a peace filled me as I drove home. In the following weeks, the experiences I shared with you no longer had that hold on me that they once had.

After our time had ended I began making tentative steps towards counselling as a career. I decided to study the person-centred diploma at University. Throughout my writing, my experiences as a client had a large impact on what I had to say, and I am very grateful for that. Everything was completed by May 2017 and I graduated in February 2018.

It has been a tough but worthwhile journey and I am very appreciative of the part you have played.

With warm thanks

(Part of a letter received recently from a client who completed counselling 5 years previously)